Sunday, February 22, 2009

Something Borrowed

I liked this book. It's a chick book, but the main character isn't ditzy and annoying. And even though you should hate her, you gotta love her.

On Rachael's 30th birthday party she and her best friend Darcy's fiance Dex have sex. And while Rachael and Dex should feel bad about the hook up, they don't and realize that they are love each other. Throughout the whole book you are just waiting for Darcy to catch them and see what happens. Does she catch them? Do Darcy and Dex get married? You'll just have to read and find out.

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

The Opposite of Love

I love smart chick lit books. They are the ones that don't scream chick lit, but really they still are. The cover isn't pink and girlie, and the main character actually has a brain and doesn't need to rely on a guy or endless shopping to make her happy. This is one of those books. Even though it is about love and realizing that you had the right person when you no longer had them.

Emily breaks up with her boyfriend Andrew when she gets the feeling that he's going to ask her to marry him. Andrew sounds like the perfect guy, because it's a lot easier to make one up on paper than it is to actually find one in real life. Emily knows that Andrew is Mr. Right but gets worried that she isn't Mrs. Right and ends things before they get any further. Then Emily kind of has a break down. Quits her job at a law firm, tries to get Andrew back into her life, but he doesn't want anything to do with her because she 'broke them'. Then she finds out that her grandpa is dying, and basically her life just falls apart.

But hey, this is a chick book so of course everything works out. She gets a new job, she and Andrew get back together. The grandpa dies, which is sad, but it brings her and her father closer together.

It's a good book. A fast read. Read pretty much all of it in one day. So check it out.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Sharp Objects

I don't usually read thrillers. I stick to the friendly chick lit and funny mysteries. But there was something about this book that always caught my eye when I saw it at the bookstore, so I finally just checked it out from the library. I was very disturbed by it by the end of the first chapter, but it's written in a way that makes you want to keep reading.

Camille is a Chicago reporter who gets assigned to go back to her hometown to cover some murders that have happened to two little girls. Her boss thinks that going back home will help her after her recent stay at a mental hospital. Camille likes to cut words into her body. Going home brings back some dark memories for her and while there is uncovers some dark secrets about her mother.

It kind of reminded me of like a really twisted episode of Law & Order or one of those kind of shows. Some parts are kind of graphic, so if you like fluffy stuff, this isn't the book for you. Stephen King gave it a good review, and that was my first sign that this was going to be different than my normal reads. But I liked it, so maybe I'll read more thrillers.

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

The Girls Next Door

We all know who Hugh Hefner is, but none of us knew anything about his girlfriends until the E! Channel created a show about his 3 girlfriends, Holly, Bridget, and Kendra. Of course, at this time they aren't his girlfriends anymore, but back when they were, they had a show called The Girls Next Door. I love it. It's my guilty pleasure. And now they have put out a book, so of course I had to read it. It mostly just talks about where the girls are from, how they met Hef, some of their favorite things, and is filled with lots of pictures. So if you are a fan of the show, then you will like this book. One thing that would've made it better is if it was a little juicer. Come on, people want to know what really happens behind closed doors.

Monday, February 2, 2009

He's Just Not That Into You

Unless you've been living in a hole, you've probably heard of the book He's Just Not That Into You, where a guy named Greg tells you all the signs of a guy who isn't into you, and if you are dating this guy, then you need to dump him.

I've recently (and currently) have dealt with a guy who is giving me mixed signals on if he's 'into me', so that's why I picked up this book. I had read it a few years ago when it first came out, but they are turning it into a movie, so I wanted to refresh my memory and hope that maybe it will get me to stop thinking about this guy who, according to the book, isn't into me.

Here's some notes that I took from the book and Greg's signs that a guy isn't into you. I color coded them so the red are quotes from the book, the blue are my thoughts on those quotes, and the black is the chapter titles.

If a guy really likes you, there is nothing that's going to get in his way.

1.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's N0t Asking You Out. (Because if he likes you, he will ask you out.) OK, this makes sense. If a guy likes you than he's be wanting to get to know you better, grab a cup of coffee, going out to dinner, whatever it is that people do on first dates. Guys don't mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex whether it be a 'fuck buddy' situation or a meaningful romance. Well, that's good to know. Best friend Rob would rather get laid by you instead of caring about your friendship together. Let's make up a rule that we do sleep with our friends. Shouldn't they be more important than sex? Men like to chase and you have to let them chase you. I asked some guys about this one, and they disagree. Guys like it when girls ask them out, they say that it takes off the pressure of having to ask a girl out. So, don't assume that just because you asked a guy out that things aren't going to work for the two of you.

2.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You (Men know how to use the phone.) Of course you want a guy who's going to call you, but there are some people who just don't like talking on the phone, I'm one of them. So if he's texting you, does that mean he doesn't like you? It's the year 2009, where I think texting is the new calling. But yes, having a guy call you up every so often is nice. So guys, if you are into a girl and are just texting her, give her a call once or twice a week. 100% of men polled said they've never been to busy to call a woman they were really into.

3.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Dating You ("Hanging out" is not dating.) Duh. I haven't really been on dates. Every guy I've dated I was always friends with first, so I don't really know how to tell the difference between hanging out and dating. Would be watching at movie at home with a guy be considered "hanging out"? Do you actually have to go to the movies to have it be considered ''dating"? If this is the case, than hanging out is cheaper than dating. 100% of guys polled said "a fear of intimacy" has never stopped them from getting into a relationship.

4.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Having Sex With You (When men like you, they want to touch you, always) True. But there's always those players out there who will have sex with you and make you think that they are into you, when really, they aren't. But yeah, if you are dating a guy and he doesn't want to have sex with you, then there's something wrong. Unless he's religious and is saving sex for marriage. If a man isn't trying to undress you, he's not into you. Once again, this kind of applies to if you are dating the guy. There's a guy who I know is into me (and I wish I was into him, then I wouldn't have needed to read this book) and he's not spending his time trying to get me naked. It's called respect. I don't want every guy who likes me to try to get me in my underwear.

5.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's Having Sex With Someone Else (There's never going to be a good excuse for cheating.) I think we can just leave it at that. No explanation needed.

6.) He's Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants To See You When He's Drunk (If he likes you, he'll want to see you when his judgement isn't impaired.) Good point. You can't have a relationship with someone who's always drunk. Drunk people are only fun for a few hours, then they just get annoying. 100% of men polled said they have never vomited in the bed of a woman they were really into. Does that mean they have vomited in the beds of the women they weren't really into?

7.) He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want To Marry You (Love cures commitment-phobia.) This one kind of made me mad. I'm friends with a couple who have been dating for like 5 or something years and they aren't married yet. According to Greg this guy just isn't into this girl who he lives with and spends lots of time with and are just super cute together. Of course she's ready to get married, and he's not, but I don't think that means that they won't ever get married, they are both still young and no one has ever created a time limit on how long you have to date someone before you have to marry them. Marriage is a scary thing, and so many of them end bad, that as of right now (because you should all listen to the single girl) I don't even know if I want to get married. Of course, that could all change when I find a guy who I like who is 'into me'. 100% of the guys polled said they would have no problem marrying a woman who they were positive was the love of their life. OK, but just how long did it take for these guys who actually marry this woman?

8.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's Breaking Up With You (Duh) ("I don't want to go out with you" means just that) 100% of men polled said that when they broke up with someone, it always meant that they didn't want to go out with them anymore. I thought this was pretty true, until one of my ex's kept telling me he missed me and stuff. Of course, it wasn't the ex that I would actually get back together with. There's a guy out there who's going to be really happy that you didn't get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

9.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's Disappeared On You (Sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself.) That's just mean. Geez guys, have the guts to actually tell the girl that you don't like her anymore. In a nice way off course. No answer is your answer. 100% of men polled who had "disappeared" on a woman said that at the time they were completely aware of what a horrible thing they were doing, and no woman calling them up and talking to them would have changed that.

10.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's Married (and other variations of being unavailable) (If you're not able to love freely, its not really love.) It sucks when you think you've met Mr. Right and he turns out to be married. But don't get involved with him, because in the end, either you or the wifey will have gotten hurt. And love shouldn't involve hurting people.

11.) He's Just Not That Into You If He's A Selfish Jerk, A Bully, or A Really Big Freak (If you really love someone, you want to do things to make that person happy.) Basically what this chapter talked about is how weird guys can be, there was one guy who wouldn't sleep in the same bed as his girlfriend. So much for snuggling. Either he's just not into her, or he has issue, but I know that I would never want to be with a guy who didn't want to sleep in the same bed as me.

So there you go, 11 signs that this guy just isn't into you. Hopefully you either have or will find a guy who doesn't fall into any of these categories. Someone who will call you, sleep with you, marry you, love you, etc.